“All of this pain has a purpose”, six-year-old Harmony heard from deep within as she practiced transcendental meditation for the first time. Feeling relieved by these words of hope, she knew instantly that she wanted to learn how to bring this message to life. With progressive healers as parents, Harmony was nurtured to be a healer herself. However, the painful secrets hidden beneath the façade of having well-loved healers as parents kept Harmony locked in a pattern of wounding and suffering. 

Conditioned to be accommodating and agreeable, Harmony thought that being nice would earn her love and approval, but instead she felt broken and lonely. With low self-esteem and unhealed trauma, she allowed herself to be victimized by men repeatedly - keeping her pain hidden away and never speaking her truth. As she set out on a long healing journey, she learned how to take her power back from her trauma and conditioning so that she could claim her healthy feminine expression - tender, powerful, and sovereign.

"Harmony Kwiker’s story is a modern day he-she-roe’s journey, the journey of how she learned to give voice to her deepest truth and reclaim her essential self. Hers is the story of Everywoman. In breath-taking detail, she gets up close and personal about such universal themes as motherhood after divorce, the sexual dynamics of male-female dating, the power of repressed emotions and ancestral wounds, healing through embracing emotional pain, owning your 'No' as a woman, and opening to spiritual insight. 

But this is not just a book for women. With fearless accounts from her own life story, she paints a vivid picture of how men are conditioned, how they pursue their needs for love and sex, how they behave when they fear rejection or loss, and how difficult it can be for a man to read a woman’s signals. I love how nothing is taboo in this magnificent work. She sensitively reveals her own experiences with: growing up with a free-thinking, lesbian mother; dealing with compulsive eating and post-partum depression; doubting her lovability and her worth; and seeking validation through sex. 

In the end, the reader comes away inspired and uplifted: If she can do it, I can do it! Pain can indeed be a doorway to the light. You really can develop beyond the limits of your personality type and your conditioning. Daily life really is the most compelling spiritual practice. I urge you to get this book and read it all the way through as an act of self-care. I believe you’ll be much wiser for taking this journey with this gifted author." (Susan Campbell, PhD, author of Getting Real, Truth in Dating, and Five-Minute Relationship Repair)