The sad reality is that life isn’t like the movies. There are often no real fairy-tale outcomes, divorce statistics are growing, and more and more couples are growing apart. We are simply not as close or loyal as we once were, and the ability to meet new partners has also grown with the invention of mobile phones, the internet, Facebook, and dating sites over the last few decades.

What commonly occurs during nasty breakups is that both individuals lay blame and fault on each other, reluctant to take any responsibility for the breakdown. It’s very rarely the case that one partner is a completely innocent victim and the other is entirely at fault. Both partners contribute to the gradual downward spiraling dynamic of a failing relationship. It takes two people to start a relationship and two people to end it. 

The other thing about nasty breakups is that it's not like an addiction or mental health issue of having cancer. What I mean by that is that the level of sympathy associated with a breakup is especially low, for more longer-term relationships, there is usually a bit more, but with newer relationships, our friends and families tend to brush it off and say things like "Oh, you'll be fine, he wasn't good enough, anyway" or "There's plenty of fish in the sea". These kinds of comments are not helpful.

The thing is that the breakdown of any relationship can be extremely traumatic for all involved, especially in the case where there are children involved or in the case of divorce. Severe trauma can lead to depression, mental health issues, anxiety, and even lead to suicide.

World-famous life, addiction, business, and relationship coach Shane Cuthbert addresses the issues facing those dealing with breakups and provides solutions and insights into how to better deal with and cope during these traumatic experiences.