Performance anxiety and the inability to make a woman reach orgasm are just some of the many issues so many men struggle with in the bedroom. Today on The Bad Girls Bible, seasoned porn star and sex coach, Erik Everhard joins us to share his 10 Clit Commandments and his tips for keeping an erection. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about how Erik got into porn, how to manage performance anxiety, some strategies to get erect and stay erect (including Erik’s CRUSH Protocol), how sex affects masculinity, and so much more! Erik even breaks down the 10 Clit Commandments as he shares how to perform mind-blowing oral sex and get a woman over the edge to achieve orgasm. Finally, he tells us all about his Everhard Academy and where we can learn more from him. Thanks for listening in!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Introducing today’s esteemed guest, Erik Everhard.
• Erik shares his journey and what led him to become a porn star.
• How to manage performance anxiety as a porn star.
• Erectile strategies someone with a penis can use to stay hard.
• The biggest mistakes guys make when trying to last longer.
• Erik shares his CRUSH Protocol for helping men stay erect.
• Why sexual prowess is ingrained in a male’s identity and masculinity.
• Erik breaks down his 10 Clit Commandments.
• How vibrators can be a man’s biggest teacher when it comes to oral sex.
• What the tongue compass is and how to listen to it.
• Primary cues to pay attention to when performing oral sex.
• Being effective not fancy, the danger of novelty, and why consistency is key.
• Common oral sex issues Erik sees with his clients.

Quotes:

“Confidence is going to be a byproduct of competence.” [0:19:19]

There’s no way that you can decouple your sense of masculinity from your performance in the bedroom.” [0:20:35]

“Vibrators are the greatest teaching tool known to men and as men if we can look at what that vibrator is doing, we can extrapolate a lot of things from it that work on women.” [0:26:17]

“Give the pussy what it needs!” [0:35:26]

“It might be tough for you to get honest feedback from a woman that has an emotional connection with you.” [0:43:05]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Erik Everhard — https://www.erikeverhard.com/

Erik Everhard on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/erikeverhard/

Erik Everhard on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/groups/erikeverhard

Erik Everhard on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/erikeverhardofficial/

Erik Everhard on X — https://x.com/ERIK_EVERHARD

The Everhard Academy — https://learn.erikeverhard.com/users/sign_in

Unleash Your Sexual Superpowers: A Porn Star’s Guide to Sexual Mastery — https://www.amazon.com/Unleash-Your-Sexual-Superpowers-Mastery/dp/1950367320

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

Have you ever been curious about what the swinger lifestyle might be like? Today we sit down with Dan and Lacy from The Swing Nation Podcast to answer all your swinger-related questions. Tune in as we discuss everything, from figuring out whether the swinger lifestyle is right for you to the impact it could have on your relationship.

Discover what drew Dan and Lacy to the lifestyle, their prior experiences with monogamy, and what they have learned from navigating this new world together. We discuss some of the best tips for exploring the swinger lifestyle, especially if you’re a beginner, before examining how to deal with jealousy, and why honest communication is essential! You’ll also learn how to recognize signs that swinging might be right for you, along with red flags you need to know about. Tune in for a deep dive into the swinging community from experts Dan and Lacy!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Introducing Dan and Lacy from the Swing Nation Podcast.
• How Dan and Lacy found themselves involved in the swinger lifestyle together.
• Their experience with monogamous relationships and why they prefer the swinger lifestyle.
• Issues they encountered when they first started dating as swingers.
• Tips and advice on embarking on a journey of non-monogamy together.
• The benefits of taking it slow when you first start exploring the swinger lifestyle.
• How to recognize green flags that swinging might be right for you.
• Why insecurity and jealousy are normal and why good communication is essential.
• How swinging has benefited their relationship and communication.
• A breakdown of Dan and Lacy’s boundaries and how they set them.
• The value of having a list of rules when you’re starting out.
• Important red flags you should be aware of.
• Understanding compersion; the happiness you feel when your partner is intimate with others.
• How non-monogamy could change throughout your life and relationship.
• What led to them becoming prominent swinger influencers and educators.
• The type of events that Dan and Lacy host and how to join their Discord community.

Quotes:

“I knew that I can be monogamous if I really wanted to. It's not natural for me. I enjoy the non-monogamous aspect much more. It was nice to find a community that we could do it safely and together in.” — Lacy [0:06:33]

“If you want to take this journey into non-monogamy, it should be something that you're doing together to explore each other's fantasies, to improve your relationship, to improve your sex life.” — Dan [0:10:07]

“The more you engulf yourself and experience things, I think the more you open up to new experiences.” — Dan [0:22:26]

“The average person on OnlyFans makes $150 a month. It takes a lot of work. We have a team of people now that run mine. We have four OnlyFan pages. It's a labor of love. It's taken a lot of work. You have to be comfortable with your body and you have to set clear boundaries.” — Lacy [0:36:36]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

The Swing Nation — https://theswingnation.info/

Join the Swinger Society Discord Server! — https://discord.com/invite/swingersociety

The Swing Nation Podcast on Swinger Red Flags — https://podcasts.apple.com/de/podcast/lifestyle-education-swinger-red-flags/id1582945782?i=1000547768021&l=en-GB

The Swing Nation Podcast on Should I start a content subscription — https://podcasts.apple.com/de/podcast/from-swinging-to-subscriptions-should-you-start-an/id1582945782?i=1000645432035&l=en-GB
Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter