We celebrated BMRT 5th Anniversary at the 2026 National Council for Adoption Conference in Washington, Dc.

After 5 emotional, powerful impactful years talking to Birth/First/Natural Mothers sharing their stories has been a Healing Place of Grace. Some women have told ‘ their secret after 20, 30, 40, 50 years. Thank you for trusting me with your story .

We had the opportunity to meet fellow advocates for unsealing OBC , Rebecca in the Fight and Win in Virginia this year after many years. YES, Virginia is now pen effective July 1, 2026, for adult adoptees to receive their original birth certificate ( OBC) .

We talked about “ THEY” spoke for moms not wanting to have OBC because of the shame and forgetting about their child. We think of our children every day in one way or another just like parents who raised their children.

Rebecca talked about her journey as an adoptee and a birth/first/natural mother. She shares her unique perspective of navigating life and is now serving the adoption community as a social worker.

We talked about our experience at the NCFA and hearing comments that were somewhat disturbing at the same time knowing that our voices needed to be hard in these rooms

I spoke openly in a full ballroom that “ GOTCHA “ day celebration for adoptive family is “ LOSTYOU Day grief for first/birth/natural families .

There was an audible ‘GASP in the room . Maybe someone realized this truth for the first time . Let’s hope it did. .

Rebecca shared powerful words of “it is not the responsibility of birth/first/natural mother to heal the trauma of an adoptive family .

Adoption must ALWAYS be about the child..

The REAL Talk of this episode

“Everyone has to Do their Work to Heal “

This is a Special episode of BMRT . WE had a very candid conversation with birth/first/natural mothers, Dana, Jesse and Jori about their journey.

As I say , we are all in this together .

We also have on the podcast Drs. Ashley and Paulina , who are conducting a research study with birth/first/natural mothers to listen to US.

BMRT is in collaboration because our Voices have been silenced for so many years. This is our chance to openly candidly share our stories, our journeys of what we experienced then and now .

Our Voices of hurts and trauma have been silenced for too long. I created this platform , BMRT 5 years ago to give us a Voice . We offering you the opportunity though this research study for the world to ‘Hear US’ .

The First Families Project is a research study designed to hear the stories of families who have placed a child for adoption. In the first wave of this study, we are looking specifically at talking with birth mothers.

We want to listen to your life story to better understand what led to the placement, the placement process itself, and what life has looked like since.

I am asking all birth/first/natural mothers to participate in this research study .

Click the click below to share your story , you deserve to be heard.

As always , any mothers who wish to share on BMRT Podcast , reach out to be at dyrphoebe@gmail.com

Tell others , post this episode to your social media pages and birth/first/natural mother Facebook groups .

Don’t just talk among us , let’s talk to the world.

“They” will not understand our path unless we share.

To all who are willing to share, we are so grateful for the gift of your story. Please email us at first.families.project@gmail.com

Thank you Ladies, Love to All of You

Yvonne

Yvonne is H. O. T , Honest, Open, Transparent of the long advocacy fight on releasing from the vault , original birth certificate ( OBC) .

Our voices, Birth/First/Natural Mothers , need to be heard and not silenced .

Yvonne speaks about BMRT partnership with “ First Families Project “ by Dr. Paulina and Dr. Ashley on Life History Interviews with U. S. Birth Mothers.

Grief and trauma is pre-verbal for adoptees.

It is grief and trauma for mothers their entire life , the question is how mothers are dealing with Grief and Trauma .

We like to say – There is Grace in Healing , the mission of BMRT podcast , approaching 5 years in sharing the stories of birth. first. natural mothers .

BMRT is a platform for Grace and Healing

Mother’s Day is soon, what are you feeling ?

We will have a special episode on the emotions around Mother’s Day

Cassy grew up raised by her grandparents wondering why . When she found out the circumstances , she realized the sacrifice her grandparents Cassy discovered they made to ‘ Step Up ‘ to raise her.

Cassy discovered her pregnancy at a late date . Her mental mindset became a split in emotions on what to do . Cassy kept her pregnancy secret from nearly everyone .

Cassy had less than 2 hours to choose a family that would raise her child . The fact that this was Cassy’s experience , “it chills my soul “.

Cassy leaves this message to birth/first/natural mothers that “We Lead from Love” and this ‘ Love Makes Us Stronger than You Think”

Sherry shares her journey of experiencing the trauma, secrets and shame that most birth/first mothers experience. Her thoughts of denying her pregnancy and persistently saying “ I a not pregnant “. Once reality was made real , then there was the decisionthat she faced.

Sherry spoke about believing there was “ A Plan “ . Sherry and Yvonne talked about the ‘ Real Talk of what birth/first mothers went through physically as we birthed “ small humans into this life “.

Sherry shares the story of her journey and her life over the years with her daughter.

Listen how Sherry shares her emotions through “ Loving from Afar” .

Anne brings a fresh perspective from her path of healing.

She shares as an adoptee and a birth/first mother .

‘Children can not Process’ are her words about growing up.

At the age of 8, she asked herself the question, “ How does this make sense? “

She talks about what she realized was her faith .

Anne shares how she wanted to hear someone ask her if she was OK .

She simply wanted to be seen .

Anne describes her life as being ‘ Tossed into the Waves”

Anne speaks to birth/first mothers with these words . “ Honor Yourself, Honor Your Journey “

Anne talks about her book , “ Trauma Recycled” .

Anne shares her Voicein addressing Trauma, Secrets and Shame

Laura grew to know trauma, secrets and shame as many adoptees and birth/first mothers do.

We talk about the choice to accept the shame, continue the secrets and address the trauma .

She shares her journeyof discovery of learning that she was going to be a mother. Laura leaves us with important information that many may not know.

Laura’s reunion journey with her daughter is like many reunions , a series of emotional roller coasters