Ever find yourself needing your partner to reassure you that you’re okay, desirable, or enough? That’s emotional outsourcing—and it quietly drains intimacy and desire.

In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy sits down with Bea Victoria Albina to unpack how this pattern forms, why it shows up in both daily life and the bedroom, and how it can keep you stuck in cycles of disconnection. Together, they explore what it really means to take your power back—by reclaiming your voice, setting boundaries that actually hold, and rebuilding desire from the inside out.

If you’ve been feeling a little too dependent on your partner’s validation (or just a little off in your connection), this conversation will help you shift the dynamic—without losing the relationship.

Because desire doesn’t thrive on reassurance—it thrives on ownership.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs a little reminder that they’re already enough—and don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the show to help more people find these conversations.

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Is scheduled sex sexy… or does it kill the vibe?

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most common (and quietly controversial) topics that shows up in long-term relationships: putting sex on the calendar. Because when life gets full—kids, careers, stress, exhaustion—spontaneity doesn’t just disappear… it gets crowded out.

So what happens when you stop waiting to “feel in the mood” and start creating the conditions for desire instead?

We’re talking about:

• Why desire naturally shifts in long-term relationships (and why nothing is “wrong” with you)

• The myth that real desire should always be spontaneous

• How scheduling intimacy can actually increase anticipation, playfulness, and connection

• The difference between sex as a feeling vs. sex as a choice

• How to reduce pressure, performance anxiety, and the fear of obligation

• Why defining sex more broadly changes everything

• Common traps couples fall into (and how to avoid them)

• Practical ways to make scheduled intimacy feel intentional—not clinical

Because here’s the truth: scheduling sex isn’t about forcing desire… it’s about making space for it. And for many couples, that shift is everything.

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Want to take this deeper?

If this conversation is hitting home, my course the Pleasure Circle walks you step-by-step through understanding your desire, your patterns, and how to actually build a more connected, satisfying intimate life—without pressure or performance.

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Most people think desire should just show up. And when it doesn’t? They assume something’s wrong.

In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy sits down with Sex Therapist Brooke Bralove to challenge one of the biggest myths about sex: that desire is supposed to be spontaneous.

Together, they unpack:

• Who actually experiences spontaneous desire (hint: fewer people than you think)
• Why long-term sex often becomes predictable—and what to do about it
• The role of novelty in keeping desire alive
• The patterns couples fall into that quietly shut things down
• What it really takes to get out of a sexual rut

Plus, Brooke shares how Accelerated Resolution Therapy can help shift the deeper emotional blocks that keep people stuck.

If your sex life feels a little too quiet, a little too routine, or like something’s missing… this conversation will change how you think about desire and what to do next.

Reach Brooke At:

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