In this episode Dr. Jenn delineates Pleasure from. Desire.

She unpacks the various combinations of situations where desire and/or pleasure come into play and examines why each is valuable.

Pleasure Before Desire: Sometimes, pleasure can be experienced without prior desire, such as unexpected joy from a spontaneous event. This type of pleasure can enhance psychological well-being by bringing unexpected happiness and reduce stress.

Desire Leading to Pleasure: Desire often precedes pleasure, motivating individuals to pursue goals or activities that they believe will bring satisfaction. Desire is the wanting feeling that leads to action, which involves pleasurable outcomes.

Pleasure Without Desire

Immediate Gratification: Activities like consuming favorite foods or engaging in enjoyable hobbies can provide pleasure without a preceding desire.

Desire Without Pleasure

Unfulfilled Desires: Desires that are not met can lead to frustration, anxiety, and dissatisfaction. Think Blue Balls (or Lips) here. The anticipation of pleasure that never materializes can negatively impact psychological well-being.

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In this episode, Dr. Jenn talks about vulnerability. This is something that shows up both in your platonic and romantic relationships. Most of us, in theory, really want vulnerability. But dismantling our own obstacles and showing up wholeheartedly in relationship is challenging.

Often times, in couples counseling, both parties in the relationship want vulnerability but have a hard time achieving it. There are numerous verbal and nonverbal exchanges that signal safety and risk interpersonally. We start to initiate and then we retract or we perceive a rejection or hesitation, and we shut down. Vulnerability IS inherently a risk. And it also come with tremendous reward.

Are you curious about how vulnerability actually works in relationship?

Tune in to hear more.

If you have a topic you want to hear covered by a sex therapist, let us know at Jenn@PleasureProject.us

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In this episode, Dr. Jenn sits down with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers - a brilliant Ph.D., LMFT, Sex Therapist and author. This episode mainly explores shame, which is at the core of so much sexual dysfunction.

They discuss:

• The roots of shame and how it can present in your sex life/relationships

• How the political and cultural climate can affect shame

• How did America become s*x negative?

• S*x & Religion

• How family of origin affects attachment

• What is normative curiosity?

• Showing up authentically in love

• Hesitation & Self Doubt

• S*x education

• Psychedelic’s and their place therapeutically

This is a behind the scenes, organic conversation between two sex therapists. Give it a listen and let us know what you think!

You can find Dr. Tina at:

www.TinaSchermerSellers.com

www.NWIOI.com

www.ThankGodForSex.org

Instagram: @drtinashameless @NWInstituteOnIntimacy

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